Tomorrow marks a year and a half of this crazy relationship thing with E. It’s not the sort of thing he’ll remember, and I wouldn’t expect him to. But I mark it for my own memories, and take a moment to pause an reflect on what I have learned in the past year and a half because I have known him.
I can say the things that matter – hard things, scary things, true things – and the world will not collapse. Even when I say them knowing they will hurt someone I love.
I can ask for what I want, and I can live with the consequences whether I get it or not.
I can have the kind of sexual connection I dreamed of as a teen, and the friendly, loving relationship I want as an adult, and they can be the same thing.
Domesticity is not a prerequisite for a deep, meaningful relationship.
I can support someone and love them deeply without having to carry their burdens for them.
Boys ARE different, and a little odd, but that can be a wonderful thing.
I am loved, beyond expectations, and by so many.
Posted by Jeni on November 15, 2011 at 9:21 pm
Hey, congratulations to you, too!
Posted by RoheseKat on November 17, 2011 at 5:23 pm
Thanks!